Your doing well, just keep up the positive. Listen to Sven he's got the principles down.
1. Give her space. No R Talks, no pursuing. 2. Be your own man. Those goals are great. Focus on that. 3. Be very wary of that counselor. He is taking a very bad approach IMHO 4. I wouldn't really bring family and friends into it. They can give the worst advice.
Stay strong.
I've been where you are and for the same reasons. It's been an unbelievably long road but I'm still on it. You probably have a long road ahead of you (sorry to say) but it does bring you to wonderful places. Things are pretty good for me. The R seems to constantly get better just at such a slow pace it's unbelievable. DB'ing works. Keep it up.
