R2,
I agree, let him sweat it out a bit. Also for the Venting, you know that is what we are here for!!!

You're right you can not say anything to XH or his "friend" about both of them needing to move on and get their own lives. b/c they will see it as you trying to interfere!!! I guess they will some day see if, if not PLEASE, PLEASE do NOT feel guilty. B/c R2, you have done NOTHING wrong!

You are a great person and your XH has to know that! but right now they don't know ANYTHING! it makes a person mad and also may drive you nuts... b/c you are sane and can see these things where as they can not!

For the IM, go visable if you feel you should, or wait it out another week and then see what happens! he might see you then and "chat" maybe not, but maybe. That is a chance you will have to take!

Take it 1 day at a time and love yourself!!! ;\)

wife of an addict
M 39 H 39
D18 D 16
Together 19 M17