My question is do you want her??? If the answer is yes,,then get your a$$ back there,,pretend that its' a family members' death,,it kinda is, its' the death of your marriage!!
Maybe if she sees you came back, risking your job, to stop this divorce she might, just might be willing to save it??! I think that would be the "total 180" for you (reading your sitch)!
M44H44 M18 T22 Sep7yrs-3/10 S23,22,15,11 10/07I file 2/08D postponed by H 2/09D on 3/09H moves in 8/09I kick H out 9/09H-PA 10/09-2/10mediate 3/10OW discoved 5/10H&OW engaged 7/10DDay w/atty