I doubt you did any harm at all telling how bad it felt to be served that way, and you may actually have done some good. I know that the strict DBing is not to share our negative emotions, but DB is just a set of guidelines, not the absolute 100% truth.
What a selfish toot he is being about the kids. Par for the course in MLC, it seems. Sorry though, for their sake. As for you, you can always tell him commit or pass this week, that you need to make plans.
You did fine mom, IMO. He really was an a** having you served that way, and I suspect he knows it.
