That is not a happy man Nic. He is a lost man, and he thinks he sees relief from his pain and guilt in the future. He will not find that. He does not know that. He can put an a mask you know. He is not happy.
Chin up girlfriend. (Not that slang term sweetie). You are OK.
Funny you should mention that black white thing. I have that too. At least I did my counselor called me on it, and recognizing this is the first step towards fixing it. I do not do this as much anymore.
YOu will be OK. I get that you are a teacher too. By virtue of your profession, you have to be reflective. On your teaching and in your life. Use the skills that you have at hand when working with your students. Do you see them as all bad, or all good? No. You see a composite of strenghts and weaknesses. You teach to those. Now you are a smart lady, reflect on this and how to adjusts your black white color dial. Your outlook will be more colorful soon.
I have been letting my M go to a D for about 10 months now. Still no D. THey just seem to want to bend our will so they can have what they want. This is by no means the end, unless it is the end for you. My hunch is that GF relationship is not that stable. She is pushing and now he can report that LS is going forward, and he thinks he sees relief. Wait till that does not happen.
If the D is what you want, then good. In the end this is all about finding happiness and joy in our lives. It will come in small doses now, but wait till it comes in larger doses. It will happen for us Nic. It will Cheers, Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.