Matilda, I'm saying to stop pursuing if it's not bringing you two closer together, and getting you the results you want. You need to put your energy into where it's going to do the most good.
I'm going to experiment with posting in the Infidelity forum. My W has resumed her sleeping elsewhere behaviors. I need more support than what the Piecing forum can offer at this time. I'll come back when the sleeping elsewhere behavior stops for an extended period of time. My new thread is "W at Home, Yet Sleeps Elsewhere."
I'll keep checking on your situation. I'm on the boards almost daily at this time.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
