The observation that I made is that I am currently living with 3 little girls that I cannot rationalize with and only their wants and feeling matter. -EmtnRllrCstr
Yes, I know. In my case also, unfortunately they are very selfish and immature. They do whatever makes them happy and do not see the devastation they cause and in my opinion they will see it many years down the road when it will be too late.
Originally Posted By: EmtnRllrCstr
But for some reason that SOB was able to connect with my wife in a way that I couldn't. Now I just need to get a chance to connect with her again in that way and all the other ways we have connected through the years. -EmtnRllrCstr
I have think it is because they are getting from them something they are not getting from you and I think it is that new exciting feeling which is addicting for some people (which doesn't last anyways)that gets them sucked into other people.
I think, but I am trying to do everything this OW is doing for him to beat her at her own game kind of and he just can't seem to let her go, so there must be something else... but what?
As for you picking up DD at her convenience all the time, if it becomes a habit for her, maybe be busy one time... say, I'm sorry, but you will need to make other arrangements, I cannot pick her up today. If it is something planned ahead of time, maybe tell her ahead of time that you will not be able to because of another appointment you cannot break. But be nice about it. This way, you are not always available and you are distancing yourself from your wife and maybe she will start to wonder what you are doing.
It is the hardest thing I have been through, too. Even having 3 children and going through labor was easier than this!!
