I don't think there is a "problem" with HSPs and I don't think HSPs can CHANGE these traits. More they need to be aware of them and realize everyone doesn't feel the same way which is OK also.
Exactly. This is what I would hope H could see if I get the book. If he is HSP which I am pretty much in no doubt he is, he needs to see that it is different wiring from other people and there is NOTHING someone can do to make themselves more sensitve if it is physically at the level of the nervous system. He sees people who are less sensitive than himself as somehow coarse and boorish and he sees that as their fault. If they would only try harder they would be aware of the things he is aware of.
Sometimes though I feel like he is aware of things that are NOT there. For example he will over-interpret my tone of voice and put a negative spin on something I have said when there is absolutely no negativity within me. It's true that no matter how hard you try if you are feeling negative about something then that will seep out in your tone, but I have often been taken aback by him interpreting something in a way that bears no relation to the way I feel. Reading about HSP makes me wonder if it is something like the way a deaf person will talk with a strange intonation because they can't hear themselves. Maybe a non-HSP person will be doing the same thing on a subtler level. I find myself constantly rehasing the way I would naturally phrase something before I dare let it out of my mouth because I know he will pick on something about the way I've said it. Very draining.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
