Tell it to me Mama. I do read your threads, but what is your worry right now?
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
D22 came home from college to get her hair cut. Had dinner with her tonight. I ask her if she heard anything, and she has not.
She will let me know.
I am really curious to see if TJ lets me know. I did not ask me to. I wonder. Expectations at zero!!!!!!1
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I am going to sound needy here. I can not see the reality of my situation. YOu are being so supportive and telling me what I want to hear. After the last year of hurt and pain, I need to know some truth here.
Do you see TJ coming home here?
I believe we still have the eye of the storm, a reconnection and depression, withdrawl and acceptance to go. But the next step seems to be a call from him. Telling me he misses me, mistake, tears........ Then I will know that we have the rest of the trip in front of us. I look at situations here on the board and can see it all working out. Are you telling me that I could be one of them? Never mind the hope think. I have that in boatloads. I have a great PMA and GAL. But I need sight from an outsider. Is this getting close to the first "I made a mistake"??????
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
THere seems to be a point of no return. That H as he is creeping closer, goes over the line and he is coming home, albeit through the hurricane.
What do you see as that point, if there is one?
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Remember, God can move mountains to remedy your sitch. What seems impossible to us, is possible thru HIM.
I think it is very hard for some to admit they made a mistake. You might not hear it but his actions would show it.
One thing I have put in my brain is that it is all in God's timing, not mine. That is what is so hard, we want results now but God doesn't work that way.
Sending hugs and prayers your way.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Did you go through a time when H wouldn't acknowledge email you sent regarding children? I know your children are younger than mine and H talks to our children but it bothers me that I send email regarding events about the children and he doesn't even acknowledge that he received them.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Did you go through a time when H wouldn't acknowledge email you sent regarding children? I know your children are younger than mine and H talks to our children but it bothers me that I send email regarding events about the children and he doesn't even acknowledge that he received them.
I ahve gone thru this!!
Back in '05, I would call H and tell him about the kids concerts and wanted him to let me know if he would like to attend, that sort of thing. He never came and was with OW in his office each time.
I was in tears while sitting there watching my kids.
Up to this day, H has not attended a concert of theirs. It's a shame and part of the reason is, the kids attend private school and the concerts are held in the church!! Not to be mistaken with a church service but in his mind, once he steps foot in a church, he will break down because he knows what he is doing is wrong but cannot stop it.
I would say to not expect much out of the MLCer when it comes to the kids unless they are in the hospital bleeding to death. Isn't that awful?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
