DR says A lasts 6 months. True???

[Ophelia]

I don't know for sure how long my H's A has been going on, I just know that he didn't start it until after he moved out, (which is why he doesn't actually think it's an A). Judging by credit card records, I figure it probably started mid-Nov, (about 1.5 months after he left), so it'd be around the 4 month mark right now, meaning he's still smack in the middle of the new R stage of love and euphoria. I try not to think about it too much. Turns my stomach to be honest.

The key is be the best x wife you can be! Kind. Gentle. Accepting. (for now). That will surprise them. They will think that you can not keep it up, and they will be sitting on the curb, enjoying the nasty wife show. Nope. Don't go there. Soon she will overplay her hand. Give her time and space.

I really needed to read this today, because I'm at the stage where I don't know if I can keep up the non-annoying W persona. I feel like I've been keeping it up for ages now, and it's having no effect, so I'm getting frustrated and wanna burst and just dump a whole lotta nasty onto him. But you're right, that'll get me absolutely nowhere and won't make me feel any better about anything.

Does anyone else ever have that fantasy where you kidnap your H (or W) and cart them off to some cabin in some remote location and trap them there so you can deprogram them and make them see what they're doing to the point where they end up begging for forgiveness and a second chance? Or is that just me and my overactive imagination?