I don't think you can control the feelings your spouse might still have for the OP - that can take an unbelieveable amount of time sometimes, however, I would venture to say that unless the unfaithful spouse has physically eliminated the OP from their life (and when I say physical, I mean not having a sexual relationship as sometimes they work together etc.) and is dedicated to working on rebuilding together with their partner, I don't believe the couple is piecing at all
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
