You are welcome. I can endorse this with experience. My situation seemed very hopeless. Now I am not so sure. I am hopeful, even confident??????? that H will be home one day. This is how I have handled it. Kind. Gentle. Detached. A little mysterious. Does this answer the questions in real terms?
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
