I just moved over from separated and look forward to emulating the successes here in piecing and benefiting from the rich advice out here. Here is a link to my sitch:
In a nutshell, we have been drifting apart over pretty much 5 years. I was the one to blame initially with an intense focus on career and was just not there for my W emotionally. Well, in Nov last year, she declared that enough was enough (this was the 3rd or 4th time) we seriously talked divorce. I tried the same old pleading, but she would not give, and I finally landed in DB land. Anyway, I've been working hard on being there for her, but constantly test my boundaries. We are separated physically by about 700 miles during the week and I used to come home over the weekend regularly. Come November, I was asked to stop that - we have eventually agreed (last night) that we will concentrate on being friends (she admits seeing progress, but is still concerned that it is not the right progress) and she is going to help me with her LL and guide the friendship. This is the first time in the last 6 months that she has said this, and I am very thankful (although, it did take the LRT to help). I will be back visiting my family every weekend, and hopefully, I will get it right this time in satisfying her emotional needs. Any pointers would be greatly appreciated..
