mrs cac, I think we dealt the HSP concept a glancing blow on this board a while ago. I made the statement (which I believe was contradicted by someone) that the HSP is practically the same thing as the Myers-Briggs INF (that is both the INFP and the INFJ). I got a lot out of the HSP books because I'm one of those (just like you are).
Re cac being like my bf (and all of his posts over the last couple of days could have been written word for word by my bf), my bf and I took a workshop that some of you will remember based on the book "Undefended Love." One of the things we did in the workshop was identify things we do when the heat gets turned up emotionally. And we characterized this way of coping with a catch phrase. Mine was "I'm Outta Here!" meaning that when the going gets tough in the R department, particularly in a heated convo, I'm inclined to leave the room, or even to get in the car and drive away.
My bf's was "I Guess I'm Just an A$$hole," meaning "I guess I'm just such an [censored]-- I don't know why you even bother with me."
I was intrigued when mrs cac said that "I'm an a$$hole" was one of cac's defenses/bailout lines.
