I think you're looking just a little bit too deep, here.
This doesn't have anything to do with my particular neuroses; nobody likes being around angry people and emotionally "tense" situations, especially when hostilities could break out at any moment. Its just unpleasant. Its not like I'm talking about one of those crippling phobias where people think they're actually going to die if "____". But if you think that you can say something to piss off your W that puts yourself in the proverbial dog house for the next week or more, is as enjoyable a state as NOT doing that, then you've achieved some sort of zen-like enlightenment, the likes of which few other humans have ever achieved. for most of us, there IS a price to pay for pissing off our spouses. the feeling of anxiety ("anticipation of impending ill") comes from the cognative ability that allows humans to anticipate the future, based on history that we've seen repeat thousands of times. You can call that a "preconditioned response", or you can call it common sense. They say doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity, don't they?
