Ok Aud...I am always keeping myself up to date on your sitch but don't generally give too much advice as my sitch is so screwed up that it wouldn't be a good idea. But here, I am going to feed you some of the advice that you gave me.
Take care of you and the kids. If H really wants to be with you and your family, he will do the right thing. There is no point in pressuring him because it will only backfire in your face. Take care of YOU!!! Let him see you move on with your life. I know this is hard but you have to do this. Because in the end, he may not come back. I am not trying to be a pessimist, but it is reality. You can't sit around and wait for this 1 man to change you life. You have already done that in so many ways. Keep pushing forward, with or without him. If he wants to be there, he will do it.
Don't live your life waiting for him. There are so many good men out there that would love to have a patient, caring, and unconditional lover as you! We are two women made out of the same mold. We love our Hs no matter what they have done but in turn, we put our family first. Keep your head held high knowing that you have done all that you could at this point to save your M. It is up to him to make the next move. But please don't wait around for that move. You never know how long it may take.
Just my opinion, Jen
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
