DR says A lasts 6 months. True???

[Holly06]

Here is what I know about the 6 months.
Affairs do not last. They last from 6 months to 2 years, usually.
The 6 months thing is the romance and newness of the relationship. AFter that it becomes work.
Now the amount of time varies with variables. Do they live together? Is the affair secret? Kids? Stress? Other addictions?
Long distance? How much do you interfer?

When you interfer, or try to make their life miserable and guilt ridden, they have a common bond. The nasty wife.
On the other hand, after much consistant effort on your part to leave them alone, the affair will have to have a basis for continuing on its own merit.

The key is be the best x wife you can be! Kind. Gentle. Accepting. (for now). That will surprise them. They will think that you can not keep it up, and they will be sitting on the curb, enjoying the nasty wife show. Nope. Don't go there. Soon she will overplay her hand. Give her time and space.
It is sorta like having to be perfect forever in a relationship and meet the other persons needs at all cost. They are not married, they have no legal ties to keep them together, and any mistake is magnified.
Time is your friend. The better you do at detaching and getting a life, the less you feed the affair. Let it die on it's own.
Cheers,
Holly