SH, betcha she didn't think about the date ahead of time AT ALL, and when she realized it, she felt she "had to do what she had to do....out of her hands....finally SHE can be happy and just a "LITTLE" selfish...hee hee.
Forget about it. Never really crossed her mind. I guess the good news is I doubt very much she did it to be cruel. She's just oblivious. Clueless. My H and I are reconciling, I am glad to say. But when i look back at his MLC (great to come here and post, so i don't backslide into the anger I sometimes get surprised by, btw)--I am still amazed at what he did/said/didn't recall/ etc. Lots of times all I could say was "wth??!!"
Sometimes posting here about their latest insanity can be funny ( I know, it's so NOT funny right now). But It helps to know others have had idiot crazy spouses....who DO get better... Maybe you can pretend your W is in Iraq and isn't reachable right now...and may not come back, but just as well could...
Just makes it easier to GAL. There is some truth to "Fake it 'til you make it" too. New school of thought is that instead of waiting around for emotions to cause/create behavior, we can engage in behavior that eventually causes/creates emotions. And nope, don't bother telling her any of this. Won't help. Although there is nothing we as LBSers can do to really help the MLCers, there are things we can do that make it worse. Look up the list of "Do's and Don'ts" somewhere under MLC I think.
If anything, her cluelessness is more evidence of this being a MLC and not so much a WAS...fwiw. I still see hope for you honey, so you hang in there! It ain't over 'til the fat lady sings, and I ain't fat! Or singing! Crossing my fingers for you, (and me/H) j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
