Oh, I don't know...I think the dramatics vary regarding individuals rather than gender. It was Sweetheart's brother and SIL who labeled him a Drama Queen.
He through tantrum's when they said the OW wasn't allowed to attend our nephew's 6th birthday, and a few days later his Dad said she wasn't welcome at his older sister's birthday (Sweetheart's Aunt). And that was only last August.
In Spring 2005...the beginning...Sweetheart kept cycling. But he was so offended that no one believed he really loved HER--his apartment was not yet available, so he was still living at home, sleeping with me...among other activities (gosh I miss those activities). He kept cycling...afraid the OW wasn't interested in him...it was such a sterotypical teenage thing. I mean he was freakin' out that she might not be interested...crying on my shoulder about it.
And at one point...Drama Queen Cue...he said he was going to marry her to spite everyone for not believing it was real. Not because he wanted to and loved her...NOOOOOOOOOO, to spite everyone.
As for filing on your son's birthday...sorry if it sounds callous, but he is so young that he probably will not realize and associate the dates. Had it been your birthday or had he been older--and you let him know the filing date...that would be worse. Some have been served on there 25th anniversary...the MLCer in one case apologized when he found out that it happened on that day.
You pretty much distilled it down to the core.
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everything she does is designed to dramatize for me that HER NEEDS COME FIRST NOW
But you know what? They don't come first. Oh, validate and affirm her feelings etc. But you have young children...they come first. Then you come next for yourself...and she gets to come next for herself...then spouses.
But for her, everything will be only about her for quite some time. Sorry.
