One more thing I forgot to mention: the WAW often starts to re-write the marital history. "I never really loved you.", "You always ignored my feelings." "I made a huge mistake." etc. It's common. Don't let it get to you. Remember, that's not really your wife.
Let's look at that makes you happy:
1. Helping people. Serving? Teaching? Coaching? Counseling? What about helping them do you like? What gifts do you enjoy using when you help them? Here's a brain teaser: do you mostly define yourself by how you make others happy? Is that similar to how your relationship with your wife is not healthy? Think about it. I have the same gift/problem. I have trouble asserting what I want. I'm very dicplomatic. I live to please others. But..at the same time, I find joy in using certain gifts.
2. Being active. Great. Do more of it.
3. Excellent. What does that mean to you? Any goals for you kids? Any thing yuo want to pass on the them?
It seems that 2 of the 3 have to do with your serving others.
What do you want to do for your yourself? Just you?
Ballroom Dancing?
Karate?
Rock Climbing?
Painting?
Sculpting?
Gardening?
Playing pool?
How about hanging out with some male friends?
By the way...I'm so grieved about how often Christians end up on this board.
