Today is my son's third birthday. He is charming and smart and delightful in every way. He can name every engine in the whole Thomas the Train collection. He and my D6 are the apples of my eye. I had a wonderful morning with them this morning. At about 11am my wife came home as I was checking my email. She was all smiles and very nice, asking about our morning. I told her it was great. Then she said, "Oh, I just wanted to tell you I filed for divorce this morning." I knew this was coming but I could not believe she did it on my son's birthday. I asked her "Why today?" and she said that it just worked out that way and that the timing was "unfortunate."
Why do they behave this way? Why the wanton cruelty? I think my wife believes that our marriage was all about my needs (I disagree). Now everything she does is designed to dramatize for me that HER NEEDS COME FIRST NOW and that my needs, feelings, etc. don't count for anything anymore.
I know this is a long road, and I know that she was going to file, but it is hard to maintain any hope or resolve or optimism in the face of this behavior.
If I recall, I think I've seen other people say that their spouses filed on a kid's birthday or on their anniversary. Why do they do this?
-SH
"Now some kind of man, he can't do anything wrong. If I see him I'll tell him you're waiting." ---Lowell George
