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I will locate the truck....you can take care of it because he would never know who you were. I just get to sit on the hood with the popcorn! \:\)

Sad thing is, I love this man more than I can ever imagine. This D is going to be the hardest thing in the world to do but I can't back down. I have to show that I am serious that he can't keep hurting me.


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I'm so sorry \:\(


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it's ok....I am the one that made the decision to make him leave. I couldn't get attached to him again and then him starting up the A again and leaving. That would hurt even worse.

Only God knows if he will truly realize what he has left, down the road. Should he figure it out, maybe I will be here and maybe I won't.


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When I told my H to move to an apt. I told him I was not willing to work on us - it just had to be w/o a 3rd person involved. I said the door will always be open - just not sure how long I would be behind that door...if he took to long I may be gone....


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I mean I WAS willing to work on us...


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I understand. H wants a D. I told him that he will figure out how much we mean to him and how big of a mistake he has made in walking out, not necessarily out of the house but out of the family and M.

He came over a little while ago because I had tm him about needing formula and diapers. He brought them over and we talked for a few. He said that he had the cell phone because he tried to give it back to her and she said to keep it. I know that this is probably a lie. Because if he really wanted to end things, he would have left the phone no matter what.

So, at this point, I have to get my head together and move forward with the D. If in the future, he decides that he wants to reconcile.....we shall see where I am in my life. I am not saying that it is impossible after a D, I just know that he has to be 10000% committed to me and a new relationship and family. If he can't do that, then there will be absolutely no way that I will put myself in that position.

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There is someone I'd like to smack but it ain't you!

Just as there was big change before, there can still be change for the better. Take care of YOU!!


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"I am not saying that it is impossible after a D, I just know that he has to be 10000% committed to me and a new relationship and family. If he can't do that, then there will be absolutely no way that I will put myself in that position."

Ditto Jen. We have to take care of ourselves and our babies first now, and have faith that something better is around the corner. Because it is.

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I would love to do more than smack him....I think that goes for so many people. I am going to take care of me and guard mysself. I have to say that I have made so many true friends through all of this.


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Ditto Jen. We have to take care of ourselves and our babies first now, and have faith that something better is around the corner. Because it is.

Love,
Aud


This is so true. I think my kids had so much to do with me making him leave. This is the 3rd time that he has left. They can't depend on him.

I will do what I have to to protect them. He knows that. There is no way in HE[[ that he will take the kids as long as he is with her. She has proven on more than 1 occasion that she is crazy!!

I know in my heart that I am a great woman and mother and that I will find someone to care for me when it is time! \:\)


"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
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