FWIW, I don't believe that you are giving up too soon. You have determined what you will and won't accept in a relationship and I commend you for that. The best thing that you can do is to move forward with your head held high and try to live life to the fullest. You are a good person, and you deserve good things in your life. I have not had to deal with an A, but I have had to deal with a D, and it is probably the most difficult thing I have had to deal with in my entire life. Just know that YOU did not fail. You did everything you could to try to save the M, but guess what? You saved yourself. You became strong enough to set boundaries and not tolerate certain behaviors.
Like Ben, I will no longer have a thread. My sitch is over. I am starting a new life. I will be lurking on the boards and will be here if you need someone to talk to. Feel free to email me at anytime if you need some support. My email is kristy.smith22@gmail.com
XOXO Kristy
M: 29 H: 27 Married: 6/22/02 Bomb: 6/12/06 H moved out: 6/16/06 Signed D papers: 1/8/07 D final: 5/14/07
Thank you so much! You don't know how much your words help. Even though I am sitting here in tears....I know that things will get better.
Ben, he came home on Thursday while I was out of town and I asked him to leave last night, Wednesday. He thinks he loves her....so who am I to mess with that. He will realize one of these days how great things really could have been if he would have just given us a shot. By then, who knows where I will be. She is and always will be a crutch and a nut case in my book. He will always be attracted to a much stronger person than she can ever be. That is why he kept running back to me. And I told him that I can not be there for him anymore. He needs to know what it is like on his own. I won't be there to pick him up every time he falls, even though that is going to kill me.
So guys, thank you. I am just at a loss for words. I hope that I have done the right thing but only time will tell. I just couldn't be cheated on yet again. So i had to stop it before it began. I don't have ESP but I know that once he turned that phone back on and went to see her even for 5 minutes, that things were going to start back up. And guess where he ended up last night..... Not my worry anymore.
Thanks!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
You have nothing to be sorry for Ben...you tried to get him to open his eyes but he is so blinded and so deceived right now that nothing anyone says matters. He truly believes that he can't get over what he has done.
I have your number and will call if things get to rough to handle.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
I would be happy to have it. You never know when you need a good friend to talk to. Ben can give you my email address.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
UA, Let's run him over....i am all for it. I have resulted to just tm him if I need anything. I can't talk to him at this point.
Aud, Thanks for your thoughts.
~Jen
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
