Looking Up

[Heywyre]

I think you are right LookingUp but the odds of my H agreeing to seeing a C once a month for the rest of his life is prbably not going to happen. Besides, we don't have an extended health program and this counselling has already cost us a bundle. Don't get me wrong, I think it has been worth every penny but we can't go on indefinitely with it either.

And to some degree, I think its a good idea to be able to put it behind you at some point too. I can't say I won't make an appointment once in a while to air anything I feel I need to but I also need to give me (us) a break from constantly thinking and talking about it too. I am getting to the point where I (like my H) just want to leave it in the past and move forward and I think that's a good thing, wouldn't you say?

When I say "leave it in the past" I don't mean forget about it though. It is something that will always be in my memeory, which I don't think is bad either. If we totally forget about what they have done, we allow ourselves to form the same patterns and let it happen again, which I don't intend to do. This DB is REALLY hard work but it sure will make us both better people