The whole problem with SSM's is there really are no good compromise positions.
Oh Really?! Then that must mean that even though my H doesn't do the stuff that I would REALLY like sexually that I must not be happy, and that we DON'T have a very happy & healthy marriage now. I mean, that is the logic that goes along with your line of thinking here. I'm here to tell you that line of thinking is crap...and it's self-defeatest.
I'm here to tell you....WE HAVE COMPROMISED, and we ARE very happy now. I'M very happy. According to him HE'S very happy too, and I believe him...because he genuinely appears happier than ever in his behaviors.
Know what the biggest change in our M has been? His behavior outside of the bedroom, and MY behavior outside of the bedroom. It has made us closer, it has made us happier, AND it HAS rolled over into the bedroom.
I don't believe you are really concerned about your W being happy in this marriage or about compromise (or you would try it), just that YOU are getting what YOU want.
Also, there is nothing wrong with wanting oral sex, but STOP comparing your wife to alot of other women. She is an individual, she is not me, she is not LFL, she is not Mojo or any of the other women on this BB...if SHE doesn't like it, that's what you have to deal with. Stop wishing she were behaving like other women and learn to deal with the woman she is!!!
