Just want to chime in on backsliding. It's normal to back slide once in awhile. It happens to all DBers. Also, I think it's okay to be friendly and extend invitations once in awhile. You just have to keep expectations low and attitude positive.
Theoden makes a good point about not inviting him to stay over next time. In fact, I'd dress supersexy (like I have plans later!!!), and vamp it up a bit.... think Marilyn Monroe and have some fun with it!!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
