You have nothing to be sorry for Ben...you tried to get him to open his eyes but he is so blinded and so deceived right now that nothing anyone says matters. He truly believes that he can't get over what he has done.
I have your number and will call if things get to rough to handle.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
