FWIW, I don't believe that you are giving up too soon. You have determined what you will and won't accept in a relationship and I commend you for that. The best thing that you can do is to move forward with your head held high and try to live life to the fullest. You are a good person, and you deserve good things in your life. I have not had to deal with an A, but I have had to deal with a D, and it is probably the most difficult thing I have had to deal with in my entire life. Just know that YOU did not fail. You did everything you could to try to save the M, but guess what? You saved yourself. You became strong enough to set boundaries and not tolerate certain behaviors.
Like Ben, I will no longer have a thread. My sitch is over. I am starting a new life. I will be lurking on the boards and will be here if you need someone to talk to. Feel free to email me at anytime if you need some support. My email is kristy.smith22@gmail.com
XOXO Kristy
M: 29 H: 27 Married: 6/22/02 Bomb: 6/12/06 H moved out: 6/16/06 Signed D papers: 1/8/07 D final: 5/14/07