Quote: ------------------------------------------------- Cheese that I'm looking for but can't find: 1) H accepting responsibility for his half of the marriage 2) H telling me that he is committed to doing whatever it takes to try to fix the problems -------------------------------------------------
1) Have the two of you actually defined "halves" or the respective spousal boundaries in the relationship? Expectations?
2) I think that CAC has discovered what a few of us that are a bit further along in the process discovered early on. If you grab an alligator by the tail, it will bend back and have a good snap at you. This can leave the grabber a bit surprised, and unprepared to take the correct action, so the grabber lets go of the gator. CAC is probably a bit confused as to the correct course of action right now. Be calm and slow down a bit. Maybe take the weekend off - no relationship matters addressed.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
