Your attempts at bolstering my confidence are appreciated, but it's looking like ALL of the tunnels are cheeseless. Any posts of mine that have indicated that I found cheese or thought the cheese was just around the bend must have been delusional.
I'm starting to think I cannot make a difference. The lesson from the last few days is that there isn't anything more I can do at this point.
Cheese that I'm looking for but can't find: 1) H accepting responsibility for his half of the marriage 2) H telling me that he is committed to doing whatever it takes to try to fix the problems
These would be a good start. Then maybe the nice comments on Cemar's thread would make more of an impression on me.
He bought Michele's book and came to this board to try to figure out how to fix ME. Just like Cemar's trying to figure out how to fix his wife. If I keep pushing, he just says that he's an @sshole and that's the way it is. This is not helpful.
I've asked him several times to read Michele's book again, but he hasn't. He hasn't even agreed to do so. He can't make heads or tails out of Schnarch so he isn't likely to pick that up again. I started reading it and trying to decipher it for him, but that didn't work either.
