just saying I think changes in us CAN cause or help or trigger changes in the R and the other spouse. I think my H had a MLC and was selfish, etc. Don'tknow how long it would have lasted. But if it lasted much longer than it did, I'd be out of the M. For me, DB coaching was the catalyst for my changes and then the R's changes...and eventually H's. We are by no means "done" working on the M. I even fear posting in DB Busted forum b/c of just being wary. But many things brought us closer. I just feel that the one single factor that most helped ME, and then the rest, was the DB coach I had. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
