DIY wrote:
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f a person (BB) doesn't deny their issues, but they don't see how they can changes, AND they also seem to be fairly happy campers, why on earth would they want to change? They (BB) will change if I am about to leave the R. but then, there is that worrysome air (my feelings of guilt) of blackmail.
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Be careful not to confuse negotiation with blackmail.

Having expectations of a relationship is perfectly legitimate. A simple statement that you are about to end the relationship due to having your WELL STATED needs remain unmet, is not blackmail.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.