I get that from my family & friends too. However, they aren't as willing as I am to look at the things that I will admit to in the break down of our M. I have tried to look at it from H's point of view, however, he isn't to the point of looking at himself yet -- he is still putting the bulk of the blame on me. I am hoping to change that by me making the changes in myself & therefore in our M that need to be made. Anyway, as far as the ring thing goes, I have thought about taking mine off a few times, but decided it probably wouldn't faze him in the least bit anyway, so I won't take mine off as long as I am married to him, which will hopefully be until the day I die. However, your sitch is a little different, so I'm not saying your choice is wrong either.

How are things going today?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10