Well, everyone...sorry to disappoint but I won't be moving over to piecing after all. After a long discussion last night, I ended up asking H to pack his things and leave. He is still very much in love with the OW and doesn't think it is fair to try to work on us when all he can do is think about her. I can't be second best and I won't be. He said that he loves me but is not in love with me. He doesn't know that he could ever say that he will be or will ever be able to touch me like I deserve to be touched.

I also found out that after 4 or 5 days of no contact with her, that he charged the phone that she gave him and he had it in his pocket charged and on......I can't be the victim again. I have to stop it before it starts.

This is not what I wanted at all but I can't and won't be in a loveless marriage. I know that he doesn't want this either because we both spent alot of time last night crying. I had told him when I came home from Las Vegas on Saturday that if he did this to me again, then I was going to head straight to court. I have to keep that promise and move forward. So let's just say that I am not doing very well right now.

I know that there are probably so many people that just want to smack me upside the head right now for giving up so soon, but honestly, I can't be cheated on again and that is exactly where it was headed.

So, instead of moving to piecing, I will be moving to the divorced forum.....

I hope you all have a good day...not sure how much I will be posting on here for a while but I will definitely be reading any comments.

Last edited by not_giving_up; 03/29/07 08:02 PM.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."