Thanks 25yearsmlc. I know if I was back together again with my spouse the first program I would be putting to use is what I bought from http://www.lightyourfire.com Amazing material. It felt like a 100 DB Coaching sessions put together but only works if you're at an arms length of each other. For now I will stay with the books and the DB Coaching. If anyone else has any say it would also be much appreciated.
