Is it over for me?

[Heartbroken]

I agree - I do not call this much of a backslide.

Avoid being needy and clingy. You want to make all interactions end on a positive. Let the OW become the 'dark side'.

My H said I just kept doing things right and doing small things that he knew the OW would never do. I did get good at Dbing but at times I went with my heart. You know your H and your sitch way better than any of us.

All we can do is offer support and ideas but YOU and only YOU know best how to act and be with H!!! We all are in this together though all our sitch's are diff despite the common threads. What may work for my H may not for yours - you have to balance your heart, gut and DB advice.

Baby steps one day at a time and keep up the PMA!!! I know it is incredibly hard but these A all are like a textbook. They all think they are some Romeo and Juliet unique couple 'in love' yet I see all over these boards how NOT UNIQUE they really and truly are!!! You are doing great - keep at it!!