Afterall..... This IS my life IV for heatherg

[heatherg]

but when the issue is resolved, be careful not to fall back into picking at one another because there is no more common enemy

I hear what you're saying, but no fear because I am handling this mostly myself. There is a common enemy to be sure, but I wouldn't say it's bonding us in any way.

Try not to even pay up front for half the materials if you can. Always lag the payments. That $8,000 you gave him is probably already gone.

Ugh, I know. I don't know what the hell I was thinking. I doubt I will recover from the contractor, but when I've exhausted my legal options, I can file a claim with dpor and possibly get my money back from the homeowners recovery fund because he was a licensed contractor. Either way, I refuse to let him get away with a clean credit report whether he can pay me or not, it will hang over his head.

BTW - due to the hurts of the past, making the occaisional drink out with friend a short one is smart and respectful.

I agree, thanks for pointing that out. I'll probably never have all of the 'rights' I used to have. It's just the way it is.

I am looking forward to the two of you addressing the bed and kissing issues.

Unless H addresses them, I don't plan to mention it again. Ever. Those two issues are FINISHED having any kind of power over me. After this long, they've worn out their welcome inside my brain. I can live the rest of my life the way we are right now.

I hope that you are still wearing your wedding ring

I am. I was lazy about it for a while about a year ago, just to see how it felt not to wear it. For example, I'd take it off to go to karate on Friday night and not put it back on again until Monday morning. But I don't pull that crap anymore. For quite a while now, I've felt very strongly that my ring belongs on my finger. His is on my dresser.

I am glad that he is addressing the porn use. That is a big step.

I agree. With big issues like that one going away, the other issues like the bed and the ring are so silly that I know they will fall away in time.

Thanks for the support.