So I just sent H an email saying that we need to talk, I know its not the right DB technique but we need to get the air cleared, or the end done, which ever it ends up being.
Limbo, The right DB techniques are the ones that help you become stronger and happier, and/or bring the R closer together. In the book Divorce Remedy, we are asked to identify what we want from the R, and then share it with our spouse. I see nothing wrong with your telling your H that you want to address conflict areas instead of "sweeping them under the rug."
You got a positive response from your H, in that he agrees with you! Good for you. The fact that he cuddled with you is also a sign that he cares about your feelings to some extent.
We'll have to see to what extent he's willing to maintain some connection with you, and work on the R. This is going to determine what DB techniques you should choose, and the level of connection versus distance you should maintain. You can practice detachment, and still maintain a connection to them.
CL
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