Happiness, is it even possible.

[fearless]

As for companionship, I believe that a lot of women would be happy to spend the rest of their lives at that level, but I believe that most men would NOT.

Cemar,

Dude, if you think that is true, you are OBLIVIOUS to one of the biggest complaints women have about their H's. They truly believe their husbands just see them as companions and even if there is sex they think their husbands view it more as sex of convenience and NOT because their husband truly DESIRES them.

And listen as far as discussing things in terms about what MOST men or MOST women do, is it really relevant? Does it make you feel like you have more power over your wife because what you are asking for isn't just for YOU it is what MOST men want?

And furthermore you IGNORED the question about you wife's FEELINGS again. So I will repeat it with your words. What if she is saying to her friends "later we find out they don't really want to be soulmates, they just want to be companions and to have sex."

If you cannot answer that question about your wife with ANY COMPASSION, trust me you have little chance of getting what you want.

If I sound fired up, it is because I am. Not because I am "mad" at you Cemar but because I think you are your biggest hurdle here. I won't even claim that things will ABSOLUTELY change with your wife if you change. What I can claim is that if YOU don't figure yourself out, even if you divorce and look for another woman, you'll end up in the exact same place you are now. I HOPE that is enough to scare you into listening to everyone here that is trying to HELP you.