I post this in newcomers and no one is resonding, have another one to come!
Well I think I have just sunk, I know what you have all told me hear, especially Ian and Cat, however I just can't do it anymore. He is still betraying me while pretending that we are working on the marriage. I don't know if he is having another affair, but I almost consider what he is doing worse! I understand all that has been said, he's not ready, he is a mess himself, all of that, and I could live with it if it was just an issue of communication, but its not, its hiding things then lying about them, and then giving me a hard time because of what he is doing. I am really beginning to believe that because I took him back he thinks I am now a doormat, and will not say anything because I am scared to be on my own, and that is the farthest from the truth. I just CAN NOT continue, I can't go on being hurt and unhappy this way, its not right!
So I will wait and see if he sends me an email and see what he says, I almost killed a puppy by driving over it, as I didn't see it, he knows how upset and shaken I was and have yet to hear from him!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!