This sounds good. Let him do all the work. I noticed when I backed off that is when my h reached out to me too. I think it makes them really think of what they are about to lose.
No other advice from me....you know what has to be done!!!1
Looking for a friend. Anyone see Val? I am kinda worried about her.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I should be ashamed of myself for not updating more often. You have been wonderful friends and I could not have made it this far without you and many others on this board.
I don't mean to keep you wondering (and worrying) about my sitch. Sometimes I feel as though my life has slipped into some kind of "void" with H .. no real progress to speak of. He is still acting wierd and secretive, and I have no clue what is going on with him .. much like the situation a year ago. The only difference, and possible explanation, is that he might be in rehab now and possibly going through alcohol withdrawal. Remember that the judge in last month's trial put him on two years probation and ordered him into rehab.
I do know that he has not worked for almost a month now.
His phone calls to me are erratic. Sometimes he seems almost "normal" and sometimes not. He might call every 2 or 3 days, or I might not hear from him for 2 weeks. I wish I felt more confident about H but I don't. I think it will take him a long, long time to recover, if ever.
YR, yes me and the kids had a nice Easter. Mom didn't feel up to joining us this year, but it went well. The grandkids didn't mention H's name all day. They haven't seen him in almost 9 months now. I haven't seen him in 8 months myself.
Thanks again for checking on me. I'll try to do better in the future (just wish I could post some GOOD news on here once in awhile, know what I mean?) But I haven't given up on H yet .. at least not completely.
Thanks for letting us know that you are doing ok!!! You sound good. I truly hope your h is in rehab. Hopefully it will clear some of the cobwebs in his brain!!!!
I am glad that you are still having some contact with your h. As I said before I really feel in my heart he will come home. Is your D still on hold?
H admitted in a phone call last month that he was getting mired down deeper and deeper. Isn't it strange that they have the insight to know that they're screwing up, but not the will power to stop it?
I am so happy every time I read your sitch. Your H is doing great, and I know your marriage will continue to get better and better!!
YR, my latest court date for the D is scheduled for mid-June but I think there will be at least one more postponement b/c of the Interrogatories. I don't know if the OW is living with H in his new house or not (as you know, that was my boundary). I guess I'll find out sooner or later.
I hope that your h comes out of the fog soon. I am really hoping that the D doesn't go through. If your h has the ow move in with him, I will have to come there and take them down!!!!!! I don't think he will do that.
I hope you have your rope and lassos ready b/c it looks as though the OW has moved in with H after all.
To be honest, I can't SWEAR to this. I haven't heard from H in almost three weeks now (a "record" since January), so I'm ASSuming that this is the case. But I know that ASSuming qualifies me for some knuckle-rapping around here, so the situation is just on "red alert" for now.
I like the idea of you offering to take them down for me, YR. You are the most patient, gentle poster on this board and it tickles me to imagine you charging in to save the day. You are great!!
