The ick factor is valid for EVERYONE. Just because YOU are willing to go down on your wife and experience bodily fluids from her....doesn't mean she will....ESPECIALLY if she doesn't feel the intimate connection from you that she needs in order to do something that she doesn't normally enjoy...and there are MANY women who flat-out will not swallow, it's not your right to tell her she must or her effort just isn't good enough for you (and that's exactly how it sounds to me). I normally HATE to swallow, it literally makes me gag if I'm not able to time it right (or if I don't get warning)...it CAN make me nearly vomit. If a man told me I HAD to swallow or he wouldn't accept the effort (which is basically how I see your statement) then guess what...I wouldn't do it at all.
You've been told this MANY, MANY, MANY times CeMar....intimacy isn't built in the bedroom, it's built outside of it. It's the things that go on outside the bedroom in everyday life that will make a woman (speaking from my gender specific perspective here and not daring to speak for men) feel like doing something that normally icks her out....to make you happy. The behavior you display on this BB will not foster that feeling of intimacy in your W, therefore she will not want to do something that will ick her out....and you do not appear to be doing anything to foster a feeling of intimacy in your W.
In addition to that you are expecting her to behave in a manner that she did during the "honeymoon" phase of your marriage. That behavior IS NOT deception, it is temporary (we've repeatedly told you that too). There is a temporary high that occurs in ANY relationship, that temporary high can be shown differently for different people...then the relationship mellows, matures....and life friggin happens. I can guarantee...YOU aren't behaving in the same manner you did in the early stages of your relationship with your W either. Your sexual appetite may be the same...but just because yours is, doesn't mean that hers should be....it's a very individual thing.
I don't know why I bother to respond, it feels like wasted effort.
