H is home - now what?

[RedHeadWife]

I read from you and someone else on your thread about H's not wearing their rings. What's that about??? Mine isn't either. I think his "friend" is also @ work and I'm pretty sure that's why he doesn't wear it? Maybe? I know the last time he did have it on, I would bet money that he took it off as soon as he was on his way to work Monday a.m. I even told him one day that every day he doesn't wear his ring & acts like he's not married to me is like a slap in the face, but he still isn't wearing it. He told me one time that he NEVER took it off before "all of this" unless it was a safety issue. So what does this mean exactly that our H's aren't wearing their rings? I've decided not to say anything about it anymore -- that way when he does put it back on (if that happens) I will know it's b/c HE WANTED TO. Are we putting too much stock into this issue or is it as meaningful as I think it is?

Reading your last post, my thoughts are that we are walking such a thin line. We just kind of try what we think will help/work and then go from there. See how H reacts to certain things and then re-evaluate our actions. It's hard though b/c sometimes what we think we should do backfires.

Keep up the PMA. If you are still truly committed to waiting for your H to get to where he needs to be for your M to be truly back on track, I guess patience is the key. Easier said than done! I find myself wanting things to move faster than they are and then find myself trying to push things along. I guess we need to just continue to be supportive & loving and let them see this and figure it out on their own, in their own time.

Hang in there! I still truly believe we are all doing the right thing.