Holly,

I don't know if all MLC'ers go through this or not.
I can only speak from my experience and what I observed from my Beloved's behavior.

It was absolutely ugly!

It was different then the other stuff, I don't really know how to explain it, it was almost like he began to start calming down and I thought there were tons of positive things happening in our relationship and all of a sudden he just flipped out.

First there were waves of deep depression which I thought were him cycling because he would call still me to talk.

He would actually share his feelings about things.

Then he would flip back into anger, and I mean real anger.

Spewing forth everything from the pits of hell.

And I was the target.

Then the replay was back in full swing and he was out being Mr.Single again.

Then back to the deep depression, sleeping his whole weekend away, having nightmares about the children, and long conversations (about 3 hours at a time) about his childhood and his Father.

The another few spew sessions and nasty emails.

And then it suddenly stopped, very abruptly.

That little cycle lasted only a couple of months.

This is when he began to make steps forwards again.

It was almost like someone changed his MLCBS battery and gave him a new one, a new perspective on life.

All of a sudden I wasn't the witch from hell out to get him.

Now I was a good friend, a good Mother, and he loved me.

Wierd stuff!!!

He still has little pockets of depression but he will tell me now that he is feeling blue and we talk about it.

There are still issues he has with his childhood, his Mother but he is working it out properly.

I tell you Holly, this has been one helluva ride!!!


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.