My second postponed divorce date was yesterday. And just like the night of the first postponement, H called.
After H's last few calls where he wouldn't talk and even hung up on me the last time, I was in no mood to be sweet and understandng. I guess I finally reached my limit of patience. I really didn't care if he got mad or not.
The phone call lasted maybe 30 minutes, and probably half of that time was silence but I was determined not to fill those silences. H eventually caught on and starting talking a little.
I did tell H that I was mad that he hung up on me last week and not to ever do that to me again. He said he wouldn't.
In a nutshell: He said he had moved into his new house .. ALONE ... and was calling me from there. He said he wished me and the kids were there. He said he didn't want the divorce.
At one point he was talking about the devastation he had caused, and I mentioned that I was his friend (meaning that he could talk to me if he needed to). He quickly said that he didn't want me for a friend, he wanted me as his wife.
We didn't talk about any further steps to take or where to go from here. I now see that by backing off, I am getting more positive feedback from H.
I'm not having any great expectations, and there's no guarantees that he won't run again, but I do feel better about our phone conversation last night.