He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

[ourcrisis]

Doe, I can just use your h's quote except for the last part when you found OW in bed. H also claims he loves us and have decided to stay with us, BUT, he had to retify what he's done to OW, using his weird logic. I do believe that OW's abortion really affected him a lot and he feels very guilty towards her. Either that or he is lying BIG time just to keep both sides happy. If he is really lying big time, I may as well let him leave.

I blew up this morning when he IM'd me. I already told him and written to him REPEATEDLY that I want NO communications but he still IM'd me (just to say hello). But I blew up at him, saying "I CLEARLY STATED NO COMMUNICATIONS OF ANY SHAPE OR FORM. WHICH PART OF THAT IS NOT CLEAR? WHAT DO YOU MEAN RESPECT WHEN YOU CANNOT EVEN FOLLOW ONE OF MY SIMPLE XXXXXXX REQUEST?" So now he backed off and do not contact me anymore. Personally I really need the time now to think if I want to work this out or not. And I do think he needs to really experience life without me to see. I am taking a risk but I figure "better now than later".

Doe, I did tell him after I found out that "it is his choice". I also told him, though, "I will be doing some thinking and starting to try to live a life without him". I did not mention divorce as I still am not sure (actually, I still want to try to work this out and give him a chance). But as I posted earlier, starting to plan a life without him.

I just want to say thank you all for giving me advices. Sometimes you know how women really needs to hear different or same opinions just to be sure. I am the type who needs to hear all opinions before I decide (I research everything to death).

Will update you in a few weeks or as I hear more things (hopefully it is less than a few weeks). Meanwhile, if anyone has any opinion/advise, please feel free to post.