I guess it's been almost a year since the this whole thing started for me now. I finally have my own place. Of course, we've only actually been separated for five months. It's been about a year since I found out about the PA. It's hard to let go.
I don't know if you've seen it mentioned on other people's threads, but you have to basically start thinking of yourself as single and W as a friend or maybe as someone you are secretly attracted to. I still think about W a lot myself, but not the way I used to. I think of her about the same now as I did all the years I knew her before I finally got the guts to let her know I really wanted her. There isn't as much pain that way.