What a pr!ck. Some courtesy is all you're asking for. I've been debating whether or not to ask my husband to warn me when I should expect papers, but since there has been no talk of D, I thought I'd better just leave it as is.
I read somewhere something about all the demands they make in the D papers. Not to defend your H, but just keep in mind that it's all through a lawyer, whose JOB it is to get the most for his client, not to be nice to you or to act as a MC. I'm sure your L will do the same for you. If you can in your state, see if you can get a mediator to handle the situation rather than going to court. Really don't know too much in this area as I've only just started to research. How you both handle the D will really determine how your girls are affected by this in life. I've been reading the book "The Legacy of Divorce" - obviously I don't want a D, but if it happens, I'm using the book to learn what NOT to do, so my kids are the least affected by this devastating event as possible. Read it if you can.
Stay strong.
M: 33 MLC/WAH: 33 M 6 yrs, together 12 2 kids: 5,2 Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D
