Quote: I'm not always sure whether it just seems like verbal abuse or if it's just the way I interpret what you write
Perhaps you wonder because I'm never sure myself when I write it just how much I've interpreted and what he really means.
I'm confused myself. I do think that some of what he says and does is emotional abuse.
I'm just not sure I want to put myself in a victim role regarding what he says.
He says what he says (my mom use to call it diarrhea of the mouth) and I can and do call him on it. But sometimes I am appalled at what he says and wonder as do you, if he really thinks what he says is okay.
He is stuck and really he does have an incredible amount of issues that originated in his family of origin which he tends to confuse with me.
I guess the question is just how much disfunction am I willing to live with and thereby contribute too.
I do agree with you and my dear friend Alex, I know I have more then earned my way out of this marriage. I just keep sadly going down the tunnel with no cheese that believes that my H will snap out of it and be his old self.(with some wisdom)
Who would've believed that I , miss free spirit,(way back when) would have ever stayed so long.
Right now I am witnessing the devastation of what divorce has done to my brother-in-law's kids. My sensitive little S9 would be devastated. It paralyzes me.
You are an inspiration to me Frosty. I love reading about you and your girls. I value your thoughtful posts.
