How nice of you to visit. I have kept up with your situation via Snodderly's thread.
The thing about your situation is that if your H is really in MLC, It has not been long enough. It takes an MLCer at least 2 years (and that's rare) to go through all the stages of MLC. Most people start to notice the MLCer re-connecting with the children(that's first) after about 3 years.
I'm not saying that you should or shouldn't do what you need to do for you.
I chose to wait out my H's MLC and then see what happened. Many people can't or choose not to. If you really truly believe that you will never be able to live with your husband even if he resurfaces from MLC then who files for divorce is not so much the issue except for what is best for you.
About them doing the dirty work, if you really want the D then it might give you a sense of power and control over your own destiny to initiate the D.
But, if you're still not sure then don't worry about it.
Quote: He said Christmas Day, he hasn't loved me in 30 years. He thinks of me as a sister.
That's typical MLC talk and means nothing. We've all heard some version of that or another.
We all here will support you whatever you decide. Hugs to you honey.
